A man named “John” heard me talking on a recent radio show about my divorce in A.D. 1983. He contacted me by email to discuss his own, current divorce predicament and see if I could offer any insights. Here’s my response:
Marriage and divorce were a primary focus of my life in the 1980s and early 1990s. My A.D. 1983 divorce nearly killed me. Really. I lost everything but my pulse. Put me in a depression that lasted five years. Three years going to bottom; two more years coming back up to a point where I could fake being normal. I never really got over it. But I learned to accept it, live with it. I don’t think about much today.
My point is that divorce issues are no longer fresh in my mind and I no longer have much to say about it.
I will say this: After my divorce in A.D. 1983, I began to study the relevant law intently, obsessively. I learned a lot, but I never learned enough.
However, I knew a man in the 1990s who also went through divorce and studied that affliction in greater depth then I had. Never actually met the man. Corresponded by letters and some phone calls. I haven’t talked to him in 20 years. I don’t recall his name. But his research indicated that the modern “marriage” is not a Godly “marriage” wherein one man and one woman become one flesh. In other words, a Godly marriage includes only two earthly entities: you and your spouse (one man and one woman) that become “one flesh” that was real, not a fiction.